I'm almost 12 (in a few weeks). My mother met this man a few years ago and they have bought a new house. We are going to move there with him and his kids and I really like him and my step-sisters too (most times) so there's no problem. But the problem is that I wet my bed (please don't think I'm a baby or something because it's not my fault because its kind of a medical problem so it isn't my fault really!!!) and I don't want my step-dad or my step-sisters to know because now the only one who knows is my mother and she hasn't told anybody. She says that no one has to find out and has gotten me a special box to throw my sheets into in my room and I can wash them when nobody else is around, but I'm really scared someone will found out anyway because if we live in a big house sometime something could happen and they would find out. I know I shouldn't feel ashamed because I wet the bed because its not my fault but I would feel ashamed if they found out even though I know I shouldn't. My mother wanted me to give her permission to tell at least my step-dad because she tells me he would understand and maybe he would but I still don't want him to know because I do feel ashamed I wet my bed. My mom also tells me my step-sisters would understand too and are not gonna make fun of me because they are so old and mature (my step-sister is 15 and my step-brother 18) and because its a medical problem that they would understand. I really like my stepsister and I thinks she likes me to but I don't know how she would react and maybe she will think I'm a geek or a baby or something and I'm scared it will change if she finds out I wee in my bed. I don't know if I can look her in her eyes because she knows I wet my bed. I just don't know what to do about this because if they finds out and think I'm a geek or baby it would be just awful and I'm scared maybe they will tell some of their friends and maybe they also will tell everybody else. So I was wondering if you got some advice what to do about what I would do because I really don't know?

You said it is a medical problem, but you didn't say what is being done to help you with it. You and your mother should go talk to the doctor and see what can be done to help you with it and perhaps have him recommend someone to talk to that will help you not to feel so bad about yourself.

There are products on the market now that will keep you from soiling your sheets at night. They are kind of like the pull-ups that young children wear. Hiding your sheets in a box and not telling anyone isn't helping you learn to live with the problem.

A medical problem is hard to hide from people that you live with, and with understanding from them that it is something you are getting help with, there shouldn't be a problem with them calling you names or telling others.

Talk to your mother and the doctor about these pull-up type night pants to wear to keep your sheets dry and find out what the medical problem is and ask what can be done to help you with it.