Hi Angel. I'm 21 years old, and I will be graduating from university in three months with a Bachelor of Education. I'm hoping to go away to teach, but for the time being, I have a bit of a problem, and I wonder if I need to deal with it right now, or if I can hold out until (if) I leave for my career. I'm "dating" and living with a man that I have been with for almost two and a half years. When we first started dating, we were so in love...I couldn't imagine my life without him!!! Within probably the last year, my feelings began to change. I'm not sure why, but I think part of the reason is because I feel myself changing and I don't really see him changing or growing. I feel that I've fallen out of love with him--I'm no longer attracted to him--but he still loves me very much. I see I in his actions, his eyes, and he tells me all the time. I've told him how I feel, and he was hurt at first, but now he seems to have accepted it somehow. Sometimes I hate myself for not feeling romantically towards him especially not fair to him. I'm concerned about hurting him further by staying around longer than I should. Do you have any suggestions about what I could do or how I can make this time any easier for myself and for this man? I appreciate any and all advice.

There is no easy way to leave someone that loves you that much, but to stay with him the way you feel isn't fair to either of you. He has accepted your honesty about your feelings and will probably accept your hopes and dreams concerning your career.

Be honest with him about what you want for yourself after you finish your schooling. There aren't any easy ways that I know of, just honesty. He will respect you for that. Don't hate yourself for the way you feel. Be honest about your feelings, and feel good about your career choices.