I recently left my home state to live with my boyfriend in his home state. The problem is that as soon as we got here, to his home state, he has acted weird. He asked me to come here and I decided that I needed a change of scenery, so I took him up on his offer. Besides, the fact that I love him, I thought this would be the best thing to do. Well, as differently as day is to night, this is how he acted. When he was with me in my home state, he treated me with the utmost respect, but now he treats me like I am more of a problem to deal with rather than someone he loves. I don't know what to do. I have tried talking to him, but he doesn't say too much. I have told him on several occasions that I am going to go home because I am sick of the way things are going. He seems upset, and I ask him why, and then he says that he loves me, but other times he says it is my decision. I need to know what he's feeling but he won't tell me so I am screwed on that part. What do you think? Do you think I should go back home and pretend as though I don't love him? Or would I be running away from my problems. I have asked myself if I came because he wanted me to or because I wanted to, and I know that I did want to. What should I do? Thank you,
Please help.

The problem seems to be on his end, and unless you can get him to open up and talk to you, your relationship will always be one sided.

Pretending that you don't love him isn't the answer either. You keep saying that you are going back home, then you stay. Make up your mind what you want to do then do it. Put the ball in his court. Tell him that you love him dearly and would love to make a life with him, but if he can't talk to you and tell you what he is thinking, then it will never work out. If he still won't tell you what is on his mind then pack up and go home.

Tell him that you would love to remain friends, but anything more than that is out of the question. It takes two and a lot of communication to make a relationship work.

If it doesn't work out, don't beat yourself up over it. You aren't running away from your problems and it makes no difference at this point why you went with him.

If you do go home, get a job and stay busy meeting other people, put this behind you and go on with your life.