I dated a guy for 2yrs after raising my boys and not dating for 13yrs. Early into the relationship I questioned things. I found as time went on that he never got an aids test as I had requested but he lied about it. I found that he was emailing and getting email from women and talking to one once a week but was accusing me of talking to men on my own home phone. That he has a gambling problem and would lie as to where he had been. That he was living with his wife or ex wife for the whole first year we dated and after I figured it out he insisted she lived around the corner. I just found out 2 wks ago that she always lived in the house he insisted she didn't live in. I feel so betrayed. I don't know why I always attract these type of guys. At first I thought we were soul mates. But he was so clingy and possessive and would accuse me of things that I told him came from his ex wife not me. She apparently had an affair with the same guy 2 times. I don't know how to not attract these type of guys. I just like people and accept them as they are and maybe that is my problem. How do I shake this feeling of betrayal?? I feel his whole family was in on the lie. I asked his mom one time about it and she said something about some arrangement that they had but it had to do with their son. One time he had his son come out and say that his mother doesn't live in the house. This kid was 6 or 7 when his dad told him about his mom having an affair. Every time we fought on the phone this kid was sitting nearby in his dad's room. His dad would always say stuff like my son is my top priority and how I didn't like his kid but someone would. In all his past relationships the women had problems with this kid. But I think its more of where the dad would place the kid in the relationship. So this kid thinks no one likes him and had heard nothing but bad stuff that his mother has done. What do you think??? I do feel so betrayed but also so disgusted that this whole family was getting a big laugh out of me. He kept acting like it was me because I hadn't been in a relationship for a long time. I still feel like I need to respond somehow but I don't want to lower myself to their standard either. What do you think???

Run, don't walk to the nearest counseling to figure out why you stayed with this jerk as long as you did. You don't owe his family or him any response. Just get out and away from them and go on with your life.

Get yourself tested for aids and other diseases and if the tests come back clean, thank your lucky stars and let them find someone else to play games with. They can only use you as long as you allow them to.

I promise that you will have the last laugh and your life and your self-esteem.
Good luck.