I am currently involved in a relationship that has lasted over a year I adore her family as she does mine. My problem is I am currently suffering from a femoral hernia which prevents me from having sex. Should I sleep with my fiancée knowing it will give me an erection and just please her with oral sex and foreplay knowing I will have to expect the same or do without? Or should I do as I am doing and sleep in a different bed? May I also add that she is becoming very short tempered needing sexual gratification. This is urgent and feel free to post this anonymously so it may help others with health problems such as mine.

Sincerely:
Lost without an answer.

If she is becoming short tempered because of lack of sexual gratification due to your medical problems, I think you have big problems in your relationship.

Whether or not you sleep with her and find gratification is something you need to discuss with her and agree on.

Doing anything that you aren't comfortable with, for medical, or any other reason just to please her is very selfish on her part.

Communication with her will give you the answers you are looking for.