Hi, I just want to know if life is going to get better or do all the bad things in life happen at the same time? 2 months ago my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years left me for someone I knew. The thing is, I have come to terms with that but I still care about him and now he is into drugs, which I never let him do when he was with me. He still did but not this badly. My work is suffering too and I am probably going to get fired. I don't really know what I want you to say. I just want to hold him. I know I shouldn't but we still are in contact over the phone. I still love him but couldn't have him back. Really, I just want someone professional to point me in the right direction. I am trying to get on with my life but nothing compares to him. It's nice to get this off my chest.
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I am not a professional, but I think I can point you in the right direction. Your life will get much better as soon as you can put this man out of your life and keep him there. You say you have come to terms with his leaving, but that it is ruining your life.

Professional counseling will help you put his leaving in perspective, help you get your self esteem back and get you on the road to healing.

This man is a drug addict. Even though he cut down on using in front of you, he probably still used more when you weren't around. You have no control over what he does. He is responsible for that, and he is the only one that can take care of the problem.

You can love someone dearly, but you have to learn to accept the things that you cannot change, and go on with your life. A professional counselor will help you with that.

Try to stay busy and get involved in other activities that do not involve him or his friends. You will find new friends and new interests and very possibly find someone without the drug problems.

I know it hurts and is hard to give up on someone after being together for that long but you will learn that there is nothing you can do for him. It's time to do for yourself now and let him go.