My dear husband is having an affair. It is my fault. After 25 years of marriage, I forgot the love and sex part. I cannot live without him. He comes home 2 or 3 days a week, and we have a loving relationship.

He says he loves me, and brings me flowers. Thanksgiving, he came home to give me flowers, and within 5 minutes, he was gone, waving to me and telling me that he loves me.

With a busy schedule at work and home, I forgot to tell him, and show him how much I love and need him.

I need him forever, and I need him to stay. Please help me, for I love him so much.

Your husband's affair is not your fault. If he feels something is lacking in the marriage, it needs to be talked about. The answer isn't running to another woman.

First, go to your doctor and get a thorough check up to rule out any physical problems. Next, get counseling to rebuild your self-esteem

Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel and of your plans for the physical and counseling. Ask him to go with you. Your marriage didn't get this way by itself and it will take both of you working together to repair it.

If he loves you and wants the marriage to last, then he will support you, not run to the other woman.