I'm a divorced 21 year old. My problem is I want to get married this August . But my parents are not happy with the idea. They are doing everything they can to stop the wedding. My mom is refusing to get involved in it in any way. My dad is to the point that he really won't talk to me except to tell me what a mistake this whole thing is. When I got married the first time I was 16. They didn't even know the guy I was going to marry then. and I never had this many problems out of them. The guy I want to marry this time they've known for at least 10 years. (Him and me grew up together). I just want an outsiders view of what I should do. I am really in love with him and I want to marry him. But I also don't want to loose my parent's respect. What should I do? Please help.

At 21, you are old enough to do as you please without your parent's permission.

The best that you can do is be firm but loving with them. Explain that you realize that you made a mistake marrying so young the first time, but that you have learned from it.

Sometimes when our children make mistakes, we over protect them in the hopes that they won't be hurt again.

They need to respect your decision to get married. They don't have to agree, but showing respect and support would be one less obstacle for you and your new husband to overcome.

My advice is to go ahead and marry your long time friend. Tell your parents that you understand their concerns, but are old enough to know what you want. Ask them for their blessings and the chance to prove that this marriage is what will make you happy.

If they still don't agree, go ahead with your plans and let them know that you love them and understand their concerns, but are doing what makes you happy.

Treat them with respect and when they see that you are happy, they will hopefully come around and agree that you made the right decision for you.